If You Change the Way You Look at Things, the Things You Look at Change.
“Only in quiet waters do things mirror themselves undistorted. Only in a quiet mind is there adequate perception of the world.”
~ Hans Margolius
If You Change the Way You Look at Things… the Things You Look at Change.
By Simon Tyler
One of my favorite Wayne Dyer quotes and often astoundingly true.
Most of us have convinced ourselves that our perception is like a torch that reveals a truth, when in actual fact perception does most of the work to create a truth, rather than shine on what is there already.
The lesson in this has struck me over and over again in recent weeks and months. I have also been able to be inspired by it and change the way I look at things and no surprise, the picture began to shift and reveal itself differently (much more pleasantly too).
Are there situations, relationships, places in your world that don’t match up with what you really want? Maybe they have even led you to become disappointed, frustrated, tense, anxious, and angry about them.
Once you are in this place the Reticular Activating System (RAS) in your brain gets to work to only focus (the torch) on evidence that whatever you have set to be true is true. You will brilliantly find more and more fuel for you fire, grinding you ever more deeply into an unhelpful and even damaging state and attitude.
Immediately review all the areas in which you do not like what you see. Ask yourself the question (and write down your answers for maximum effect):
- How else could I view this situation?
- What else might be true?
- How would I really want to view this situation?
Work to find evidence that your alternate viewpoints are partially true, too.
Repeat this every hour for a day, then 3 times a day thereafter.
Things WILL begin to change, people begin to surprise you, situations become easier, clearer and a way ahead opens up.
For an even deeper fix put yourself in situations, conversations, places where the alternate view is more likely to come into focus.
Simon Tyler is one of the world’s leading business coaches. His work simplifies the lives of business leaders and owners. He is an incisive consultant, inspirational writer, provocative public speaker and master facilitator. To learn more about Simon, visit http://simontyler.com.
Coaching Call To Action
Last weekend I found myself caught in the area where I didn’t like what I saw. I was cleaning up from the Nor’easter that dumped inches of wet snow on my leaf covered trees. There were many downed branches and trees. And did I mention there was no power? The conversation I was having with myself was not pretty. I wish I had read Simon’s article earlier and could have used his questions to shift my thinking. Are there places in your life where you are seeing things like I did this weekend? Take some time to shift your perception this week. It’s worth the effort!