|Andrea Novakowski's Coaching Tip of the Week|
Brought to you by Andrea Novakowski, Master Certified Coach, Business and Personal Coaching for Corporations, Businesses and Individuals
-- William Shakespeare
I've always sought to learn from those with more experience or deeper knowledge than I possess. These mentors and coaches in my life have been most helpful, and I'm grateful for their input.
I'm finally realizing how to best use all this information for my development. The most important lesson: it's essential to be myself. Whenever I hear a successful person share their ideas or process, I resist the tendency to immediately adopt that behavior. Instead, I notice my "gut" reaction. Am I hesitating or resonating? This is very much an intuitive, visceral experience -- and it happens in a flash. I KNOW right away. What took me longer was NOTICING and TRUSTING these instinctive responses.
Does the idea I'm considering make all my cells tingle and vibrate -- does it energize me and stir up a resounding "yes!" from deep within? Or, do I react with negativity, discomfort, inexplicable uneasiness? Does the thought of adopting this action or attitude make me feel sluggish, de-motivated, heavier? Or am I energized by and about the possibilities? These responses are clues about how these ideas line up with my core beliefs and values. When I try to implement strategies that are out of synch with these core values, it's always a confusing and frustrating struggle to get comfortable and get on with it. Adopting ideas and behaviors that FIT who I am just seems to flow.
I have come to view this universe of information and ideas as a giant buffet table. Although all the items look tempting, selecting the best menu for myself requires thoughtfulness coupled with self knowledge. If I'm allergic to milk products, and always get a stomach ache when I eat them, it makes no sense to try another sample. Some items are so delicious and satisfying that I'll choose them every day. Others are rather more exotic, and I'll enjoy a taste every now and then. A few are somewhat bland, although nourishing, and I incorporate them into my diet because I know they will do me good.
Those who achieve success are invariably the ones that break the generally accepted rules and develop new parameters and methods of their own. They've learned to honor and trust their intuition and instincts. It makes more sense for us to use their lives and work as motivation and inspiration, rather than a road map.
How can you help yourself pay more attention to the things YOU already know?
Copyright 2004 by Nancy Birmbaum-Gerber. All rights reserved. Used with permission. Nancy Gerber, Professional Certified Coach and President of Stepping Stones can be reached at www.sstones.com.