People Are Like Icebergs

Posted on Feb 10 2012 | Tagged as: Business Owners, Executives, Leadership, Managers, Tip of the Week

Coach Andrea’s Intro

For those of you who have done the PaperRoom with me, you are familiar with the iceberg analogy that Brian Tracy speaks about in this week’s Tip. The iceberg applies to yourself and others.  The more we become aware of what is below the surface and how it impacts behavior, the more successful we can be in connecting and leading others, and ourselves.

Quote of the Week

“What else is love but understanding and rejoicing in the fact that another person lives, acts, and experiences otherwise than we do?”

~ Friedrich Nietzsche

People Are Like Icebergs

By Brian Tracy

It’s not easy.  Individuals are incredibly complex.  They have been formed and shaped mentally and emotionally by thousands of small and large experiences. Every thought, feeling, emotion, success, failure, fear, desire, and experience going back to childhood has had an influence on how the person in front of you became the way he is today.  This is equally true for you, too.

Imagine that each person who reports to you is an iceberg.  Only 10 percent of the iceberg is visible above the surface.  The other 90 percent, which you cannot see, understand, or influence, is under the water, in the past experiences and subconscious of the person in front of you (Tracy, 2011, p. 48).

From:  Tracy, B (2011).  Full engagement: inspire, motivate, and bring out the best in your people.  New York: AMACOM

Reprinted with permission from the OSU Leadership Center, Ohio State University, Columbus, OH 43210, (614) 292-3114, http://leadershipcenter.osu.edu/

Coaching Call To Action

This week give yourself time to reflect on your employees.  Seek to understand each and every one a little more.  Look beneath the surface.

If You Change the Way You Look at Things, the Things You Look at Change.

Posted on Nov 04 2011 | Tagged as: Business Owners, Coaches Being Mentored, Executives, Individuals, Managers, Tip of the Week

Coach Andrea’s Intro

Your mind is very powerful. You know how when buy a new car you start seeing that same car and color everywhere?  Were those cars all hiding in their garage a week ago or has your perception changed?  You have expanded your awareness, changed the way you look at things, and the things you look at have changed. This week Simon Tyler applies this concept to the areas of your life where you don’t like what you see.

Quote of the Week

“Only in quiet waters do things mirror themselves undistorted. Only in a quiet mind is there adequate perception of the world.”

~ Hans Margolius

If You Change the Way You Look at Things… the Things You Look at Change.

By Simon Tyler

One of my favorite Wayne Dyer quotes and often astoundingly true.

Most of us have convinced ourselves that our perception is like a torch that reveals a truth, when in actual fact perception does most of the work to create a truth, rather than shine on what is there already.

The lesson in this has struck me over and over again in recent weeks and months.  I have also been able to be inspired by it and change the way I look at things and no surprise, the picture began to shift and reveal itself differently (much more pleasantly too).

Are there situations, relationships, places in your world that don’t match up with what you really want? Maybe they have even led you to become disappointed, frustrated, tense, anxious, and angry about them.

Once you are in this place the Reticular Activating System (RAS) in your brain gets to work to only focus (the torch) on evidence that whatever you have set to be true is true. You will brilliantly find more and more fuel for you fire, grinding you ever more deeply into an unhelpful and even damaging state and attitude.

Immediately review all the areas in which you do not like what you see. Ask yourself the question (and write down your answers for maximum effect):

  • How else could I view this situation?
  • What else might be true?
  • How would I really want to view this situation?

Work to find evidence that your alternate viewpoints are partially true, too.

Repeat this every hour for a day, then 3 times a day thereafter.

Things WILL begin to change, people begin to surprise you, situations become easier, clearer and a way ahead opens up.

For an even deeper fix put yourself in situations, conversations, places where the alternate view is more likely to come into focus.

Simon Tyler is one of the world’s leading business coaches. His work simplifies the lives of business leaders and owners. He is an incisive consultant, inspirational writer, provocative public speaker and master facilitator. To learn more about Simon, visit http://simontyler.com.

Coaching Call To Action

Last weekend I found myself caught in the area where I didn’t like what I saw.  I was cleaning up from the Nor’easter that dumped inches of wet snow on my leaf covered trees.  There were many downed branches and trees.  And did I mention there was no power?  The conversation I was having with myself was not pretty.  I wish I had read Simon’s article earlier and could have used his questions to shift my thinking.  Are there places in your life where you are seeing things like I did this weekend?   Take some time to shift your perception this week.  It’s worth the effort!

Reversing “Buts”

Posted on Sep 30 2011 | Tagged as: Business Owners, Coaches Being Mentored, Executives, Individuals, Managers, Success, Tip of the Week

Coach Andrea’s Intro

Michael Neill’s articles always provide a new tool that’s easy to use.  This week’s Tip has you turn around the word “but” to help you increase your success.

Quote of the Week

“Dwelling on the negative simply contributes to its power.”

~ Shirley MacLaine

Reversing “Buts”

By Michael Neill

I believe the credit for this one goes to John McWhirter, a UK-based NLP trainer. I originally came across it as a sales technique for handling objections, but I’ve used it a lot in my own personal development work….

How many times have you heard sentences like this?

“I’d like to hear more about your idea, but I haven’t got time right now.”
“I think you’re a really great person, but I’m not ready for a relationship.”
“It sounds great, but I can’t afford it.”

Most of us have learned to disregard whatever comes before the “but” and take the second half of the sentence as the speakers “actual” message. But what happens if you reverse the sentence, using the “but” as the pivot point, and then take things a step further in the direction we want them to go?

Try reading the following examples out loud, emphasizing the underlined phrase!:

“So you haven’t got time right now, but you’d love to hear more about this? When would be a better time to set up a meeting?”

“Let me see… you’re not ready for a relationship, but you think I’m a really great person? How about if we just hang out together for a while?”

“If I’m understanding you, you can’t afford it, but it sounds great? Well if it sounds great, let’s see if we can’t sort out a way for you to afford it!”

Today’s Experiment:

1. Complete the following sentence stems. You may complete each one as many different ways as you would like.

a. I want to be successful, but…
b. I want to be healthy, but…
c. I want to exercise, but…
d. I want to have more money, but…
e. I want a great relationship, but…
f.  I want to be true to myself, but…

2. Choose your favorite completions from part one. Reverse the “but”, and sell yourself on a new belief!

Example:

  1. I want to have more money, but I don’t want to do more work.
  2. I don’t want to do more work, but I do want to have more money. What are twenty things I could do to make more money with less work?

Have fun and learn heaps!

Copyright 2011 Michael Neill, author of Supercoach: 10 Secrets to Transform Anyone’s Life.  All rights reserved – Read more tips at www.Supercoach.com.

Coaching Call To Action

This week do what Michael suggests.  I bet you will have some ah-ha’s (and perhaps some ha-ha’s)!

Ha-Ha’s and Ah-Ha’s

Posted on Sep 23 2011 | Tagged as: Business Owners, Coaches Being Mentored, Executives, Individuals, Managers, Tip of the Week

Coach Andrea’s Intro

I loved this week’s Tip by Steve Straus!  It’s short and sweet and gets the point across quickly about the connection between laughter and inspiration and creativity.

Quote of the Week

“Laughter is inner jogging.”

~ Norman Cousins

Ha-Ha’s and Ah-Ha’s

By Steve Straus

Laughter has many benefits. One of them is that when you’re laughing you’re breaking through your mental barriers, the barriers to inspiration and creativity.

It’s easy to stay in your head and try to figure everything out, but having ha-ha’s opens you up beyond thinking and the limitations of your mind.

One ah-ha can be worth countless logical thoughts.

If you’re not having enough ah-ha’s, maybe you’re not having enough ha-ha’s either.

Coaching Point: Do you think there might be a reason why they’re spelled similarly?

Copyright 2011 Steve Straus. All rights reserved. Steve Straus can be contacted at http://www.StrausUSA.com

Coaching Call To Action

This week if you are experiencing writer’s block, or your team is stuck for a solution, try bringing laughter into the room and see what new ideas come forth.  Have fun!

What’s New?

Thursday, September 29, 2011 – 9 am to noon ET
Pounce on a Project II

Last weekend I spent time outside cleaning up from Hurricane Irene – - raking leaves, picking up sticks, and cutting trees – to get ready for the next season.  What project would you like to get on top of and accomplish this month that will help get ready for the fourth quarter of 2011? Come to Pounce on a Project II — 2011.

Join Coach Andrea on Thursday, September 29th, from 9:00 a.m. to noon Eastern. We will join as a group by phone and declare what you want to accomplish: marketing calls to hit your numbers, adding a shopping cart to your website, or cleaning your office so you can find the goals you created in January.

During the morning, the group will gather by phone a few times to check progress and get any support needed to finish with a bang. At noon, the group will celebrate their accomplishments. Who says projects have to be boring and tedious? Bring your lightness and fun and join us for the energization.

To sign up or learn more, call or e-mail me by noon on Wednesday, September 28th. Feel free to share this with friends and co-workers, the more the merrier. (Cost of the program is only the cost of long distance phone calls.)

Know When to Cut Your Losses

Posted on Sep 09 2011 | Tagged as: Business Owners, Coaches Being Mentored, Executives, Individuals, Tip of the Week

Coach Andrea’s Intro

When I first talk to people about coaching, I tell them we will be creating a vision, setting goals, taking action, measuring performance, modifying actions (as needed) and achieving results. This structure has a built in assessment process to determine whether to continue along a path or modify. This week’s tip, by Marsha Petrie Sue, shares a similar idea: don’t give up, know when to cut your losses and create new goals.

Quote of the Week

“The reason most people never reach their goals is that they don’t define them, or ever seriously consider them as believable or achievable. Winners can tell you where they are going, what they plan to do along the way, and who will be sharing the adventure with them.”

~ Denis Watley

Know When to Cut Your Losses

by Marsha Petrie Sue

Sometimes, giving up is necessary. Quitting may very well be good for your health, according to a study reported on by the Association for Psychological Science. The lesson isn’t necessarily a new one; it simply states that it’s helpful to know when to cut your losses. But here is the catch: the upside to the study for those less willing to give up on goals easily is that of the participants who did quit, those who were more willing to set and re-engage in new goals had more sense of purpose. Notice they didn’t give up altogether; they merely modified their actions to fit a new set of goals.

So the question is: Will you give up, or toughen up? The choice, as always, is yours (Sue, p. 57).

From: Sue, M.P. (2010). The reactor factor: how to handle difficult work situations without going nuclear. Hoboken, NJ: John Wiley & Sons, Inc.

Reprinted with permission from the OSU Leadership Center, Ohio State University, Columbus, OH 43210, (614) 292-3114, http://leadershipcenter.osu.edu

Coaching Call To Action

As you face obstacles this week, you have the choice of giving up, pushing through, or setting a new set of goals.  You choose.

Seek Resolution, Not Revolution

Posted on Aug 26 2011 | Tagged as: Business Owners, Executives, Individuals, Managers, Tip of the Week

Coach Andrea’s Intro

Many of my clients have been reporting contentious conversation with coworkers and direct reports. Maybe it’s the heat of summer, although we’ve had beautiful weather this week here in MA. In the ’70s during the day! This week’s Tip from Angie and Courtney has you consider the other person’s perspective before jumping into defending your own position.

Great advice on how to keep your cool!

Quote of the Week

“The aim of argument, or of discussion, should not be victory, but progress.”

- Joseph Jouber

Seek Resolution, Not Revolution

By Angie Morgan and Courtney Lynch

Take a moment today to think about an argument or heated discussion that you have had recently. It might have been a disagreement with a coworker, a fight with your spouse or a conflict with a friend. Whatever the case, think, not about the subject of the conversation, but about your underlying motivations.

How much of the conflict centered around your own ego? If you are really honest with yourself, as the conversation progressed, wasn’t the disagreement less about the topic at hand and more about your need to be right?

As a leader, you must work on your ability to take others’ views and opinions into account. If the topic involved was important enough to invest your energy in the argument, then what you really seek is resolution not revolution.

So, the next time you find yourself embroiled in an argument, stop and check your ego. Before you vigorously defend your own position, take a moment to consider the opposing perspective. After all, it’s not about being right, it’s about making progress!

This article was provided courtesy of Lead Star – a premiere leadership development firm. You can learn more about leadership by visiting their website at www.leadstar.us

Coaching Call To Action

This week expand your perspective by seeing situations through the other person’s eyes. What do you learn about them? Yourself?

Seven Ways to Demonstrate Extreme Initiative

Posted on Aug 12 2011 | Tagged as: Business Owners, Executives, Managers, Tip of the Week

Coach Andrea’s Intro

Don’t you, as the owner of your business (or manager of others), love it when your employees demonstrate initiative? It makes it easier for you to focus on the aspects of your work that are most important.

Unfortunately, we sometimes don’t realize initiative is what’s needed or don’t know how to communicate it. This week’s Tip by Dondi Scumaci provides talking points and guidelines for you to share with your employees to make both of you more effective.

Quote of the Week

“Bureaucracy destroys initiative.” ~  Frank Herbert

Seven Ways to Demonstrate Extreme Initiative

By Dondi Scumaci

  1. Make it unnecessary for your boss to ask. Initiate follow-up and demonstrate follow-through with your assignments and projects. Make sure your boss doesn’t have to chase you down and search you out to get an update and check on a deadline.
  2. Communicate goals and priorities. Give your boss a copy of your action plan at the beginning of each week. Highlight your top priorities and deliverables. At the end of the week, debrief your results.
  3. Adopt a ‘no surprises’ policy. Bosses really do hate surprises when it comes to issues and results. Make it a personal policy that your boss will never be surprised by bad news.
  4. Present solutions. When you bring your boss issues, bring options and recommendations to go with them.
  5. Ask for more. Ask for a more challenging assignment. Volunteer to work on a special project.
  6. Adapt to your boss’s communication style. Does your boss prefer the highlights or the details? Does she like to be updated by e-mail, voice mail, or in person? Does your boss enjoy casual conversation, or does she hope and pray you will get to the point soon? Adjust your communication style to match these preferences and watch your credibility grow.
  7. Find a need and adopt a cause. Look for a corporate cause and get behind it. Be the voice for something that will make the organization and the people in it better (Scumaci, 2008, p.129-130).

From: Scumaci, Dondi (2008). Designed for success. Lake Mary, FL: Excel Books.

Reprinted with permission from the OSU Leadership Center, Ohio State University, Columbus, OH 43210, (614) 292-3114, http://leadershipcenter.osu.edu

Coaching Call To Action

This week look at how you may be hindering your employees’ initiative. What new information will you provide to them to help your employees develop their initiative?

WIMI – “What Is Most Important?”

Posted on Jul 29 2011 | Tagged as: Business Owners, Coaches Being Mentored, Executives, Individuals, Managers, Tip of the Week

Coach Andrea’s Intro

One of my roles as a coach is to help simplify business and life for my clients. While Boston is known as a center for learning and higher education, I find that bringing easy, straightforward tools to my engagements is most beneficial. In this week’s Tip, I share one of my coach’s tools, WIMI.

Quote of the Week

When you determined what you want, you have made the most important decision of your life. You have to know what you want in order to attain it.

~ Douglas Lurtan

WIMI – “What Is Most Important?”

By Natalie Manor

These four letters and what they represent can be life changing for you and those that you communicate with. The idea that we can communicate easily with anyone by finding out what is most important (WIMI) to them is dramatic for the following reasons. Rarely are you asked, nor do you ask anyone, what is most important to them. When asking WIMI, you can get to the core of any issue, project, meeting, or situation. By asking a person what is most important to them, you link directly into what they value. When you find out what someone values, you can develop a rapport that produces immediate results.

Natalie R. Manor, CEO is an author, business consultant, speaker and executive coach. Her company, Natalie Manor & Associates, is the ultimate resource for business leaders, executives, owners and managers who want to master their life and their business by Getting Clear, Getting Confident and Being Effective faster than ever before. You can register for her free bi-weekly articles at: http://www.nataliemanor.com/newsletter/subscribe.html

Coaching Call To Action

Try this communication tool and let me know what your results are. I’m always interested in how you create your successes.

How To Avoid Sounding Like a Babbling Fool

Posted on Oct 22 2010 | Tagged as: Business Owners, Coaches Being Mentored, Executives, Managers, Tip of the Week

Coach Andrea’s Intro
My process for choosing this week’s Tip? I loved the title and just had to read on! I hope you feel the same way! Art Sobczak describes what to do in a sales situation when your prospect asks you a question you don’t have a ready answer to. Instead of making something up on the spot, you need to determine whether the question is important to the prospect by asking “check questions”. Read on to find examples you can use in your sales process so you won’t be caught off guard.

Quote of the Week

“Sometimes we do a thing in order to find out the reason for it. Sometimes our actions are questions not answers.”
~ John Le Carre

Article Title

by Art Sobczak

I was on a sales call, talking with a sales manager at a high-tech firm that sold a highly specialized, niched product. Things were progressing smoothly, I seemed to have exactly what he was looking for regarding a telephone prospecting training workshop that he wanted, then he asked,

“Now, who else have you worked with that sells a similar product?”

I’ve done over 1200 training programs over the past 27years, and have worked in virtually every industry and sales model there is, but not in this one. I doubted if there WAS a company that sold a similar product.

I could have begun babbling some half-baked answer about companies I have worked with, trying to force a comparison, but certainly would have failed, and likely would not have sounded like a suave, polished professional. More like a bumbling fool.

So instead, I paused, and realized that question might, or might not have been important to him. Before I answered, I really needed to know for sure. So I asked,

“Are you asking if I’ve worked with a similar prospecting model, selling to similar decision makers? And, how much of an issue is that for you?”

He replied, “Oh, I know there aren’t many companies like ours. I was just curious. You seem to have what we want.”

Here’s the sales point for this week:

Early in the information-gathering phase with a prospect, have YOU ever had them ask you extremely technical questions that were out-of-the-ordinary?

How about outrageous requests regarding capabilities or service?

I often see reps stumble all over themselves because they don’t know the answer, or because they are unable to provide the service the prospect asks for. They apologize and make excuses and in some cases look like a total doofus because they thought that what the prospect was asking for was a solid requirement.

Clearly not the situation you want to find yourself in.

Why do people ask these questions? On occasion, they might be sincerely concerned and interested in your ability to provide the service, or to meet a certain unusual technical requirement. In other cases, they might be using tactics to belittle your service, or get you off of the phone.

To determine the precise motivation for the request, you need to ask “check questions.” Check questions help you to gauge how important the information is to the inquirer. The response dictates with how much importance and urgency you should prepare your answer.

For example,

Prospect: “Does it come with a left-handed gold-plated adapter with an Experience Rating of 99.9%?”

Sales Rep: “Hmmmm. Will that be a major concern of yours in the decision making process?”

After your “check question,” you’ll need to be prepared for the possible answers. In many cases, they’ll say, “Not really, but I was curious,” therefore meaning you could likely gloss over the request. If they answer that the information will be important, you’ll want to ask more questions to determine just how critical the request is, and in turn, you’ll need to figure out how to answer their request.

Here are other examples of “check questions.”

After an outrageous request for service,

“How often do you run into those type of situations?”

“How often do you need that type of service?”

“Are you getting that service now? How much extra are you paying for it?”

After nit-picky technical questions,

“Wow! Just out of curiosity, how are you going to use that information?”

“Hmmmm. What will you be comparing those figures to?”

By using these questions, you’ll sort out the sincere requests from the shoppers, stallers, and people who are trying to fluster you and make you look inferior.

Art Sobczak, Business By Phone Inc., provides how-to ideas and tips for rejectionless prospecting, selling, and servicing by phone. Get the free ebook, “29 Sales Tips You Can Use Right Now” at http://www.BusinessByPhone.com

Coaching Call To Action

Second Aid

Posted on Jul 23 2010 | Tagged as: Business Owners, Tip Archives

Coach Andrea’s Intro

I remember reading a story about a restaurant that was having “issues” with its catsup bottles.  The tops kept coming unscrewed and catsup spurted on customer after customer.  The remedy was to offer to pay the dry cleaning bill for the customer covered in red sauce.

Steve Straus would say the restaurant provided first aid, but not “second aid” (finding the core reason underlying the problem). In our businesses, we are all moving quickly and hopefully bringing our key strengths and skills to the office.  If you don’t have the time or inclination to create permanent solutions to your problems, surround yourself with those who do.

Quote of the Week

“Solutions – The first step toward a cure is to know what the disease is..”
~Latin

Second Aid

by Steve Straus

Every Boy Scout and Girl Scout knows about first aid. A 1948 printing of the Boy Scout Manual states that first aid is “the emergency care given to anyone who is badly hurt or who is taken suddenly sick. It is also the immediate care that is necessary to prevent slight injuries from becoming much more serious.” Many people are trained and prepared to administer first aid in an emergency situation.

But what of second aid? The term sounds jarring because we don’t use it, certainly not often. Second aid is what happens after the immediate crisis is over, whether in a medical, life-threatening situation or in our everyday living.

Do you have a good ability to jump in and handle sudden situations in your business, family, community, and spiritual life? Are you good at first aid? Many people are quite good at fixing things, moving from problem to problem “putting splints on the breaks” if you will.

How is your follow-up, your second aid? Do you look for the core reasons underlying the just-solved problem?

Do you create permanent solutions? Do you even enjoy permanent solutions or, instead, get your satisfaction from attacking the next problem?

There is no right or wrong here, there is only understanding how you show up and the results you’re getting. If you’re not interested in second aid, surround yourself with resources which will provide it. If you do like to create permanent solutions, then enjoy doing that.

Self-awareness is the key.

Copyright 2010 Steve Straus. All rights reserved. Steve Straus can be contacted at http://www.StrausUSA.com

Coaching Call to Action

If you aren’t good at second aid, who or what is the provider of second aid in your life?

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