Are You Living the Life you Want to Live?

Quote of the Week

“At the end of the day, whether or not those people are comfortable with how you’re living your life doesn’t matter. What matters is whether you’re comfortable with it.”
— Phillip C. McGraw

Are You Living the Life You Want to Live?

by Ivan Burnell

If not, why not? What is stopping you? Is it money? Is it the person you are living with? Is it your job, education, where you live or any other number of reasons? Or is it that you do not know what you really want, what would make you happy?

In my conversations with people throughout my seventy-eight years, I have learned to be careful in telling my life stories, because people tend to disbelieve me saying things such as “stop exaggerating,” or “you could not possibly have done all that.”

The reason I tell this story is because at different stages of my life, I was apparently not living the life I wanted to live. Whenever I discovered this condition in my life, I would stop what I was doing or at the very minimum the way I was doing it, and take a different path.

Admittedly, it was not an easy path, or one of ever improving conditions. I hit peaks and valleys along the way, but I did not stay or stagnate in a life that I did not want.

I am not recommending reckless or foolhardy actions. I am recommending that you take control of your life. When you do, you will find that not only are you happier but so are the people around you, although it may take them a little time to recover from the shock of your decision. (Note: Do not make your decision lightly, but when you do make it, stick to it!)

You may want to ask the question “How do I know when I am not living the life I want to live?” We have a god-given, built-in mechanism that will tell you. If you are happy, you are living the life that you want to live. If you are not happy, then you are not. So change what you are doing, or change the way you are doing it and accept gladly the results of your decision. Do not complain or blame yourself or anyone else for your results.

That is called taking personal responsibility for your own life. And as a natural result you will be living your own heaven on earth!

Ivan Burnell is the president and founder of International Personal Development and IPD Publishing. He can be reached at

Coaching Call to Action

Taking control of your life requires courage and persistence, but it is well worth the effort! What will you do to take personal responsibility for your own life?