Giving In

Quote of the Week

“I celebrate myself, and sing myself
I loafe and invite my soul. . .”

– Walt Whitman

Giving In

by Steve Straus

At the end of a long exhausting day, when you already feel drained (your cup is nearly empty) and you receive one more request for time, attention, energy, or love, you may have noticed that you feel like you just can’t do it. Most people were taught, or have become normed to, the notion that giving from a place of pain is noble.

That approach to giving includes a built in need to get something back in an attempt to replenish the contents of your cup.

The phrase “giving in” usually means to quit fighting, surrender, maybe even give up. That’s not how it’s used here. This Giving In focuses on the direction of the giving. Give to yourself. Give inward. Give In.

It’s not about being greedy or selfish. It’s about making sure that your cup is full so you can then give from a healthy place.

When you give to yourself first, there’s more of You to share with others.

Copyright 2008 Steve Straus. All rights reserved. Steve Straus can be contacted at

Coaching Call to Action

What’s one thing you can give to yourself? How will others benefit when you do? When will you do it?

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