The Most Important Meeting

“We need quiet time to examine our lives openly and honestly. . . spending quiet time alone gives your mind an opportunity to renew itself and create order.”

~  Susan Taylor

The Most Important Meeting

by Simon Tyler

A quick view of your calendar for next week will undoubtedly reveal days full of meetings, back to back on some days with no breathing space between.

The culture of many companies in which I have been involved seems to dictate the meeting thing. They are invaluable, most of the time in achieving an objective or two, but I have observed the meeting habit consuming teams, divisions and even entire companies. But one particular type of meeting, potentially the most valuable to you and your journey, gets forgotten.

My challenge for you this week is to schedule the most important meeting. It is simply a meeting with you. The You-on-You meeting can be strategic or tactical, and have similar intent to the plethora of meetings you attend every day.

We convince ourselves that we do have meetings with self, but until they are formally included in your schedule they almost always are sub optimal! They occur as you walk between other meetings, to the car park or train, the journey itself, fitting in the gaps, no agenda, no focus, random thoughts, open to every possible distraction, in utterly inappropriate environments. Would you seriously allow your team or project meetings happen like that? If you did what result would you expect from them?

Get it?

If you want to shift your thinking, your performance, your results, then you need a “you-on-you” communication plan. Your meeting need not necessarily be in a conference room with PowerPoint slides, just set it up in a way that you will be at your meeting best. A quiet place, for as long as you can handle being with the participant. And don’t complicate it, just have one or two agenda items/thoughts to focus on (one is my favourite).

10 minutes a day? An hour a week? You could even invite expert guests (your coach, mentor or development buddy). Create some frequency, perhaps even make notes (Einstein did). Just stop putting off this incredibly valuable investment of your time.

I’ve written about this in different ways in previous tipsletters, have a look at Focus On One and Pause.

Simon Tyler is one of the world’s leading business coaches. His work simplifies the lives of business leaders and owners. He is an incisive consultant, inspirational writer, provocative public speaker and master facilitator. To learn more about Simon, visit

Coaching Call To Action

To be the most effective leader you can be, it’s imperative that you take time to deal with the important/not urgent issues in your work/life. What will you create in your schedule this week to honor this most important meeting with yourself?