Are Your Words Undermining Your Influence?

“The man who has confidence in himself gains the confidence of others.”

~ Hasidic Saying

Are Your Words Undermining Your Influence?

By Angie Morgan and Courtney Lynch

Have you ever spoken up in a meeting and said the following:

  • “I think that I have a solution.”
  • “I believe that this is going to be a problem.”
  • “I’m not certain that this will work, but I would like to make a suggestion.”
  • “I’m sorry, but I feel like I need to bring up this point.”

If so, you are guilty of using passive language.  The use of passive language communicates to others that you are not 100 percent confident about what you are saying. And without realizing it, passive language can severely limit your influence.

As a leader, it is imperative that you eliminate your use of passive language so that others can hear your confidence in your opinion and you can adequately showcase the value that you bring to the table.

Remove the passive language and just say what you mean:

  • “I have a solution.”
  • “This is going to be a problem.”
  • “I have a suggestion.”
  • “I need to bring up this point.”

If you have confidence in yourself and your capabilities, you must communicate with confidence, too.  When you communicate directly, you have a greater ability to truly influence outcomes and inspire others.

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Coaching Call To Action

Where are you on the passivity/confidence scale with your language?  What will you do this week that will move your score up one notch?  When you are at this new place, what will people observe about you that’s different?