The Simple Way to Boost Your Confidence

“The man who has confidence in himself gains the confidence of others.”

~ Hasidic Saying

The Simple Way to Boost Your Confidence

By Simon Tyler

Many sports stars use the expression “confidence player” to describe how their performance and brilliance is significantly greater when they feel confident. This week I spent some time with a former coaching client who said that they had lost all their confidence.

This struck me and drove me to look again at the distinction.

When confident you are more likely to:

  • Succeed at what you do
  • Stand taller
  • Take higher risks
  • Expect and act as if things will work out well
  • Think more freely and positively
  • Be resilient to problems, conflicts and difficulties
  • Make better time decisions (choosing important non-urgent life and goal enhancing things)

All these enhance and embed the state of confidence.

When your confidence is low (or absent) you are more likely to:

  • Doubt yourself
  • Slump and hunch (whether seated or standing)
  • Procrastinate
  • Expect and plan for the worst
  • Make mistakes
  • Take no risk
  • Negative thinking prevails, tough to ‘think your way out’
  • Have low resilience, be easily knocked down
  • Make poor time choices (e.g. staying on the same thing too long)

All these enhance and embed the state of low or no confidence!

So, when you are confident you act in ways that keep you confident, and when you are not confident you act in ways that keep you there, too. You have control on both, albeit, up until this Simple Note, unconsciously!

When you are in a confident state it is unlikely you will notice any drift away from confident until it is extremely obvious, i.e. some of the second list of symptoms are present. Rather like a tiny leak in a dam, irrelevant until the whole wall crumbles and the water rushes in!

I will write about this more in the future, but the simplest of Simple Notes on that for now is… stop and review your confidence level often and take corrective or protective action immediately.

It is the low state of confidence to which this Simple Note is pointed. To shift from low to high takes deliberate, conscious and inspired action, inspiration for which is often out of reach when you are actually in that state. And just waiting for some miraculous external event to make your confidence come back is futile.

Here are 3 important areas within which, immediate and decisive attention will deliver a confidence uplift:

  • People – list the people who are PLUS (you feel better, happier, focused and certain when you interact with them); NEUTRAL and NEGATIVE (they leave you feeling drained). Reduce face to face time with the NEGs to zero, increase time with the PLUSES every day.
  • Physical – check and upgrade the quality of your food and fluid intake (reduce intoxicants, increase vitamin and water rich foods). Consider and act on the physical activity that works for you (get moving), avoid static tasks and static spans of time.
  • Media – cease consuming mainstream media (tv, radio, paper and Internet) just take in what you need for your vocation or your passion. Replace the reading time you would have used with inspirational content, articles, books, or even writing your own journal.

Just three steps, that work, every time.

Right now you may not be in your low ebb state, so print this off and place it behind a ‘break glass in emergency’ case.

And always keep it simple.

Simon Tyler is one of the world’s leading business coaches. His work simplifies the lives of business leaders and owners. He is an incisive consultant, inspirational writer, provocative public speaker and master facilitator. To learn more about Simon, visit

Coaching Call To Action

This week assess how you are showing up.  Is your confidence high or low?  If low, an easy place to start is to adjust your posture and how you move your body.   Feel any difference?  To hear more on this topic check out “Amy Cuddy: Your body language shapes who you are.

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