Secure vs. Confident

“You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, ‘I have lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.’ You must do the thing you think you cannot do.”

~ Eleanor Roosevelt

Secure vs. Confident

By Steve Straus

Ah, confidence. Feels great, doesn’t it? To have confidence, to radiate it, to benefit from the effects of it — wonderful. But there is something which is even a notch higher than confidence.

To be secure is to be confident plus have an absence of fear, be free from danger or harm, be protected. Someone who is secure is comfortable that they know who they are, why they are, and what (at least the next chunk of) their life is about.

Confidence can be faked. You know people who pretend to be confident. They do so to hide their … insecurities!

They are not secure.

When you are secure you don’t have to hide anything. It’s not about being perfect; it’s about not having to hide your imperfections.


Coaching Call to Action

Identify one area of your business or life in which you feel really secure right now. Take a minute to acknowledge yourself and your work below.


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