|Andrea Novakowski's Coaching Tip of the Week|
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-- Albert Einstein
On a recent call for one of my Work on Words modules, we were exploring this question "What does any person need to take their message out into the world in a bigger way?"
And the answer that emerged from the group that has stayed with me since was:
"We need to sustain our sense of marvel at what can come through us and out into the world."
More than persistence, more than grit and determination, what I got is that we need to nurture that sense of surprise and wonder in ourselves. (And not just in ourselves, but in the bigger thing that can speak through us.) We need to delight in the role we see we play in the world in order to find the energy to keep going out and sharing a message that may or may not be embraced by the people we share it with.
It makes sense that when the marvel is lost our communication falls apart. Our words get hollow and flat because inside we feel hollow and flat about who we are and what we have to offer. And it's not just our words. Our bodies get heavier, our thoughts get darker, and we start to move at the speed of molasses.
I find it's easier to be delighted when I'm on the cusp of something new. For me, the creative act of putting together a new model, a new program, or just having a new thought, keeps me connected to that raw feeling of "dang, I'm good!" And that gives me the courage to keep going. I find it easier to marvel when I move my body, when I take my boy to the park. When a client says "That's it! That's it!"
Marveling is hard when I'm tired, when my desk is a mess (he-hem), when I have too many things to do and not enough time. Most of all marveling is hard when I put my nose to the grindstone and try to push through whatever I am feeling to get the job done.
Here's a few things I know about staying delighted not just in yourself, but in the wisdom and the work that comes through you:
1. It's hard to delight in what comes through you when you don't have a clear picture of (or words for) what that is. Then you have to go on blind faith.
2. It's hard to remember the wonder when all your great ideas spin around inside your head and never get out into the world. Until they do, other people can't get excited, you don't profit, and there's no room in your head for any new thoughts. Less creativity, less wonder.
3. It's hard to stay surprised without a community of kindred spirits. Inside every maverick is both the desire to be different and a deep need to belong. Without the reassurance that comes from knowing you have a safe haven, you have less courage to say or do something new.
What helps you sustain that sense of marvel? And with that sense of marvel, how much more are you willing or able to do?
Copyright 2004. Isabel Parlett
Isabel Parlett teaches professionals who offer complex or unusual services how to find the most persuasive, powerful words to communicate what they have to offer. You can get more information on her programs at http://www.parlancetraining.com