"Unless commitment is made, there are only promises and
hopes . . . but no plans."
-- Peter Drucker
OK, so it's really three letters. But I still think it's foul language. T-R-Y. It's the T word that I must continually remind myself not to say. And it often pops up without any real thought when I'm asked to do something or challenged to complete a task.

I don't think most of us realize just how destructive this word can be. Try is the easy way out. It is the word we use to avoid saying yes or no. How many times are we asked to do something and both our conscious and subconscious work together to blurt out. "I'll try?"

It's a protective mechanism. It allows us to fail with a good excuse. But do we really need that protective mechanism? Let's look at alternatives: Yes and No.

Yes is a commitment that I will do what is being asked of me. My character and reputation are on the line. It makes it a lot more likely that I will follow through: that I'll succeed. And if I don't succeed, I'll learn what I can, clean up any mess that I may have made, and move on. No excuses. By saying yes, I have taken personal responsibility for the results I produce.

Saying No is another way to take personal responsibility. When I say no for the right reasons I am honoring my boundaries, and acknowledging to the person who asked for the commitment that, at this time, I am not the best person for the job. I honestly do not have the time, talent, desire or ability to commit to what is being asked of me. No gives the people who ask me for something the information they need. If they need help, they need to keep looking.

Honor those who seek your help or commitment with a confident yes or no and completely eliminate try from your vocabulary. You'll feel better about yourself, accomplish meaningful goals, do a better job for others, tell others you are the responsible person you profess to be and, I think best of all, make your life simpler.

Let me challenge you at this point. Do not use the word try. If you find yourself about to say try, stop! assess! decide! and say either yes or no.

Will you do that? Simply say Yes or No.

by Gary Davis, Senior simplyEffective (TM) Coach and President of Davis Development Coaching, LLC. www.thumbsupcoaching.com

Interesting concept.

The day I read this, I became very aware of the TRY word. I heard it in any number of places, including coming from my own tips.
This week be clear in your commitments to yourself and others.

Answer either yes, no or respond to the request with what you are willing to do.
Will you take that on?
Yes or No?

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